my first malay wedding

Two days ago i recalled i had a wedding to attend and i had to google to read on people's first experience of a Malay wedding. I even had to question my friends in regards to what i should do or wear upon attending to one, trust me i've had my underdressed and overdressed moments at wrong event, mostly over dressed, but now i am always prepared when i have to attend anything important.


ATTIRE

Dress well even if the location is below the void deck , it doesn't matter, dressing up is a form of respect for the people attending that event and for the bride and groom. Obviously if the wedding is in the hotel then don't be to slack, wear something formal, just like how you are attending a chinese wedding, therefore dress for the location.

Malay's are very extravagant, classy and yet modest, therefore try not to show to much skin, a simple dress that graces the knees or a maxi dress for ladies and for men jeans or pants and shirt would suffice for location below the void deck, just because a wedding is below the void deck is doesn't give you a reason to come in shorts and shirts and slippers, marriage is a grand occasion, wherever the location may be.


WHAT TO DO ?

Upon arrival don't just go find a seat, find the parent of groom and bride and congratulate them and introduce yourself after which then you find a seat.

oh oh eat! there is  no wrong of right ways to eat, you can either  attack the dessert, go for a second serving or eat the whole pot of nasi briyani, i don't think anyone would have much of an issue, but let me warn you, malay food is so tasty, especially all the lontong and rendang and if you never had them before and have a weak stomach, go easy on spicy and coconut laden dishes, but come on its malay cuisine!!

When then brides and groom arrive what to do ? nothing really ! eat some more or watch the performance that is being put up.



HOW MUCH TO GIVE?

So how much to give? give according to the location also and how close  you are to the brides and groom, please don't give 20 bucks if your invited to a 5 star hotel for a Malay Wedding because thats the norm if they celebrate it below the void deck, i am sure you are smart enough to do your math and how to cover cost like that! 

i really had fun even though i was covered in sweat i had amazing company and witness 2 beautiful people in matrimony.